Of course, I have some couples who tell me, “Our wedding day is just for us,” as well as some for whom family does not provide close and comforting connection.
But of the hundreds of people I’ve worked with over the past decade — couples having a wedding ceremony and reception, not eloping — when invited to consider what it means to be married before their friends and family, they almost universally reply:
If we’re fortunate, our marriage will not be only the two of us. It will exist within the fabric of many other meaningful and supportive relationships.
When we recognize that, it can ease some of the more difficult aspects of wedding planning (e.g., why we’re spending so much money, or making so much effort to consider all our guests).
In a recent post, I talked about why connection will make – or break – your wedding. When we include family and friends in our wedding ceremony, acknowledging the meaning and support they offer us, we satisfy one of our deepest and oldest human hungers: to feel connected…to belong.
Connection gives purpose and meaning to our lives, according to Brené Brown’s research. Connection allows us to experience happiness, joy, comfort and love. Connection leaves an imprint on our hearts. It’s the weddings (not just our own!) that we never forget.